Making Time and Space for Joy and Self-Care
If there is one thing that Queer Eye is teaching the world, it is that self-care isn’t selfish. It is important and necessary for our wellbeing. For me, self-care is bringing things into my life or making space in my day to do things that bring me joy. It’s not always easy, but it’s definitely worthwhile. It’s not a new concept to believe that if we make more time in our lives for joy, we invite more joy and happiness our way.
Acknowledging Joy Out Loud
I think there is a lot to be said about actively acknowledging joy in the moment, as opposed to saying, “I was really happy when…” It is something I have been trying to practice more and more, although it can feel awkward at first. Being able to express to your friends or family that where you are, what you are doing, and who you are with makes you happy is gratifying to you, but also the people around you. Who doesn’t want to be told that they make someone happy? It is a way of showing appreciation for the moment, in the moment. It could be as simple as saying, “I like getting coffee with you, it makes me happy,” or “Talking with you always makes me happy.” It makes that feeling more poignant and memorable.
Make a Joyful List and Check it Twice
I wanted to write this blog because I have been making a list of things I want to make more time for that brings me joy. We’ve all been asked “What do you like to do for fun?” and the list of what you do for fun and what makes you happy overlaps. So I started by writing down what I do for fun and I keep adding to it the more I pay attention to what brings me happiness and contentment.
What Makes Me Happy:
- Completing a crossword
- Cooking Sunday brunch
- The feeling I have after a workout (but not before or during)
- Weekly trips to the Farmer’s Market
- Listening to mystery, comedy, and history podcasts
- Smelling books (oh, and reading them too)
- Taking Watson to the dog park
- Making the perfect cup of tea
- Lighting a new candle
- Crocheting and knitting
- Playing board games at breweries
- Riding my bike
- Cooking dinner and dessert
- Summer outdoor concerts
- Making and sharing a charcuterie plate
- Watching indie films with friends