Is Being a Virgin the New Slut?

So once again I haven’t been so timely when it comes to updating the blog…Time really does fly when you have summer classes, new job orientation and season 3 of Veronica Mars to finish. Any  who, a thought that has been on my mind lately is how in this sexually confident, no-hold-bras day in age (please appreciate the afore-mentioned pun) being what was once considered a slut is now nearly idolized, while us poor virgins are practically being ridiculed. Let’s take some time to ponder over the irony of this situation, shall we?

First, we should lay out the guidelines and definitions of the words, slut and virgin. Virgin will be the first batter up!

A virgin (based on my personal opinion) is someone who has not actually participated in the act of sexual intercourse but is not exempt from other acts of, what shall we call it, foreplay?

A slut (this one may be more of a vague idea) is a person, usually a woman, who has engaged in, or thought to have, sexual intercourse with more than one partner in a seemingly small time frame, disregarding whether they were in a relationship or not.

These are obviously not from dictionary.com nor considered accurate by all people, but it gives us a baseline. So, now that we have all the awkward, “sexual intercourse” phrasing out of the way (I hope so because I can’t think of many other ways to put it), lets get down to the nitty gritty.

Remember when we were all really awkward during the ages of 11 to 14? Woah, horrible pre-pubescent flashbacks. But along with the bad hair styles and Aeropastle get ups, we, as girls, liked boys, but didn’t know what the hell to do with them. If you made out with a boy in 7th grade and used tongue, that was a borderline slut move, girl! As we got older and started to act on our adolescent hormones, more and more things became acceptable and normal. Yet, I think the norm has been pushed a little too far.

What we see on TV and in movies and now in everyday life amongst friends, is a casual outlook towards sex. Let me just say that wanting to have sex is normal and having it even more so. But now that sleeping around with people who you met through mutual friends, talked to intoxicated for 3 hours, friended on facebook and fooled around in the bathroom with is acceptable, it has made being a virgin something to look down upon.

Here are a couple of things that may go through a person’s head when they hear someone is a virgin: prude, religious freak/Jesus lover, shy, inexperienced, goody two-shoed, innocent and naive. Some, maybe all of these things are true, but not necessarily grounds for judging someone. Not every virgin is ignorant of the male anatomy, nor do they carry around a bible and pray for the strength to remain abstinent. These are all preconceived notions. Remember, before judging someone for being a virgin, you used to be one too. Oh and here are some logical explanations for people remaining virgins. Take a look:

An overabundance of douche bags unworthy of picking the flower of out one’s secret garden, fear of STD’s and Pregnancy (I swear pregnancy is now a viral epidemic), belief in not having sex unless in a committed relationship, or simply because they just want to wait until they meet someone special.

All of these seem pretty cool in my book. I can respect that.

I am not trying to persuade anyone from not having sex, just don’t diss on people who choose not to. Although a wise movie once told me that by having sex, “You will get pregnant and die,” I believe people should do what they want with their bodies, as long as it is protected, smart and safe, because I don’t know how many more status updates about pregnancies and babies I can take.

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4 thoughts on “Is Being a Virgin the New Slut?

  1. well said. 🙂 I particularly love (for both it’s clarity and imagery), “An overabundance of douche bags unworthy of picking a flower of out one’s secret garden”. A good man (aim EVEN higher than non-douche bag) is hard to find, but worth the wait.

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